What Loving Yourself is NOT


The words “self-love” or “loving yourself” often trigger preconceived notions and perceptions that are not accurate to what loving yourself truly means. So before you come up with your conclusions and head down unnecessary rabbit trails, allow me to explain what true self-love is in its purest form, by first explaining what loving yourself is […]

#131: Questions on Boundaries, Addictions, Sins in the Family & Why We Sin in the First Place?


On this week’s episode, we discuss the issues of family sins, boundaries, addictions and why we end up sinning in the first place. We also address the subject of pornography and how to begin walking a road of healing and freedom from it. Some great questions were submitted and we have some powerful discussions addressing […]

What Does Loving Yourself Mean?

8 References for Learning to Love Yourself


When we truly receive God’s love in our hearts, we step into the arena where loving ourselves is possible. The Bible reminds us that we love Him because He first loved us (1 John 4:19). Father God is the initiator of love. He broadcasts who He is as love to us, with an invitation to […]

#130: What Does it Look Like to Love Yourself?

Real Life Examples When We're Loving Ourselves and When We're Not


Over time, many can recognize they need to receive more love for themselves and take in the love that God has for them. Yet so many do not even know what this means or what it looks like. Because we lack models and references for this, we can struggle to even know how to move […]


What I’m Reading: “God is Good: He’s Better Than You Think” (Destiny Image, 2016)

One of the things I have felt strongly about is that in the days we live in, there will be an intensified war over the subject of the goodness of God. Those outside the church will question his goodness outright, while many within the body of Christ will question God’s goodness in subtle ways.


Many Christians have hit deep disappoints, so messages that help point us back to the divine goodness of our Father is incredibly important. This book has many nuggets that cause me to underline them and ponder them over and over. Bill has great perspectives that make you think and rethink.

I wish at times that Bill Johnson would dig into some of the more difficult Scriptures that people get confused with, like the book of Job, but it’s clear that dissecting those subjects in a deep manner is not what forms his unique identity and calling. In addition, his simplicity on how he sees things can be very refreshing.  I am learning more and more that knowledge can just puff us up if its not connected to heart experience. In addition, our desire for depth in theology can remove a child like faith that embraces mystery but pursues more relentlessly.

I appreciate Bill’s focus to trust no matter what and keep his eyes fixed on God’s goodness. It is an example for all of us.

This book will challenge those who do not think healing is for today or those who have given up on growing in healing. It is certainly a challenge to live a life that believes in the miraculous. But it must have a premise that lives in the eternal goodness of our Father.

Here are some thoughts that I highlighted and am pondering:

  • Saying God allowed a terrible thing to happen is pretty much the same as saying He caused it.
  • “It’s not the belief in His goodness that threatens us. It’s our definition of this goodness that has brought much debate and sometimes conflict and turmoil into the family of God.” (p. 32)
  • “Creating doctrines of no miracles today not only contradicts His Word, it is a sneaky way to avoid responsibility.” (p. 32)
  • His brief teaching on Ephesians 3:20-21 is insightful on the power of our prayers and the impact of our imagination in relating to God.
  • “We will know our mind is renewed when the impossible looks logical.” (p. 38)
  • I was challenged when he addressed how the church pushes most great promises in Scripture to the millennium, removing us from experiencing great manifestations of the kingdom right now.
  • “God’s people are to be known for their hope.” (p. 98)
  • “The one with the most hope will always have the most influence.” (p. 99)
  • Speaking to today’s culture, he says, “unsanctified mercy has taken the place of true mercy.” (p. 107)
  • The church experiencing many parallels that Israel faced in the dessert was very spot on.

One of the best quotes I pull from this book is one that resonates with my heart to see God restore our relationship capacity in the church:

“It’s a Father’s kingdom. In other words, all conversation about kingdom is about family. And once we’ve left the subject of family, we’ve left the subject of kingdom.” (p. 164)

More insights:

  • “It’s a theological crime to change the intent and message of the Scriptures in order to make me feel comfortable with my ministry experience.” (p. 170)
  • “What we don’t know is sometimes as important as what we do know.” (p. 187)

Bill Johnson mentions his father getting cancer and passing away, a story that brings me to tears every time I read or hear it. How Bill and the rest of his family responded to that sickness and loss is an incredible testimony of engaging God’s goodness in the midst of it being challenged in what you see.

I’ve been challenged to my core regarding the goodness of God, in many situations and trials that have come in my life. Some challenges have gripped me so deep I wasn’t sure I could make it. But leaning deeply into the simplicity that God is good and the devil is bad, has anchored me to a deeper trust. I don’t blame Him or claim Him in regard to the storms in my life, but I look to use everything that happens in my life for God’s glory. I appreciate that Bill is living a life that dwells in God’s goodness, takes responsibility to spread that goodness, while undoing the works of the devil all around the world.

For the past year, we have developed a daily routine with our family to express declarations to imbed God’s love and power in our lives. We encourage our kids to add in their own declarations. In this one, our daughter Abby takes the lead.

#129: Do You Love Yourself?

Has anyone ever asked you that?


Has anyone ever asked you the question, “Do you love yourself?” Most people don’t have a memory of this. If I asked you this right now, what would your unfiltered response be? Some would not know what to say. Others would give some kind of cliche answer. I really think many people have not even […]

#128: Four Ministry Myths You Might Still Believe


Search the term, “full-time ministry” online and you will get all sorts of articles and resources about what full time ministry is all about, how to transition into full time ministry or what it takes to lives in effective full time ministry. The problem is, “full time ministry” is not even found in the Bible. The […]

The One Thing I Wish Everyone Could Understand About Past Relationships


Everyone has relationships that don’t work out for the long haul and relational pain that came out of those connections. In my journey of growing and helping others experience transformation, I have found that so many people carry deep relationship frustration; combustion that turns into deep resentment and bitterness. The Missing Ingredient Yet over and […]