10 Signs You Are a People Pleaser

People pleasing is a monster that will base your sense of well being on how you think everyone feels about you. Its an impossible way of thinking and living, but millions are bound by this pattern.

People pleasing is a rejection-based way of thinking. It trains you to fill your lack of self-esteem and self-worth by maintaining a life of keeping everyone happy. You will end up becoming a peace-keeper rather than a peace maker.

If you are wondering if the people-pleasing monster lurks in your thinking, here are some questions you can ask to stir your discernment. If you answer, “yes” to a bunch of these, you can be certain that there is more freedom awaiting you as you confront this issue.

Common Signs of People-Pleasing

1. You try too hard to be seen as always doing the “right thing.”

2. You have a constant pulse of how others are feeling about you and it deeply affects you.

3. When around other people, you tend to outwardly come into agreement with whatever is being said, even if inwardly you don’t.

4. You tend to play to the opinion of whomever you are talking to.

5. You have a hard time keeping personal boundaries.

6. Receiving criticism is hard to process. It ends up consuming your thoughts.

7. You have a hard time making tough decisions, especially ones that won’t please everyone.

8. You have a hard time saying no, especially without giving 20 reasons why.

9. When not affirmed by others, you become easily depressed.

10. You spend too much time trying to do things for other people who don’t take the help you bring and change. 

If this is a battle in your life, you will be encouraged and equipped by the book “Exposing the Rejection Mindset.” Get your copy today and learn to take your peace in toxic relational patterns!

Question: What have you found to be helpful in overcoming people pleasing?



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Mark DeJesus has been equipping people in a full time capacity since 1995, serving in various roles, including, teaching people of all ages, communicating through music, authoring books, leading and mentoring. Mark's deepest love is his family; his wife Melissa, son Maximus and daughter Abigail. Mark is a teacher, author and mentor who uses many communication mediums, including the written word, a weekly radio podcast show and videos. His deepest call involves equipping people to live as overcomers. Through understanding inside out transformation, Mark's message involves getting to the root of issues that contribute to the breakdown of our relationships, our health and our day to day peace. He is passionately reaching his world with a transforming message of love, healing and freedom. Out of their own personal renewal, Mark and Melissa founded Turning Hearts Ministries, a ministry dedicated to inside out transformation. Mark also founded Transformed You, a communication platform for Mark’s teachings, writing and broadcasts that are designed to encourage people in their journey of transformation. Mark and Melissa currently live in Connecticut.

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  • Lyn Wojcik

    Thanks for this, looking forward to becoming increasingly free in this area! 🙂