Whether or not we love ourselves the way God loves us directly effects our relationships. Many times the breakdown and conflict in relationship comes down to this issue. Here are three things that occur in our relationships when we do not love ourselves. We look to a relationship to be our source of filling a […]
The deepest cry of all humanity is authentic relationship–being able to connect, belong and feel safe amongst people we can be ourselves with. But how can we do this if we are all walled up when in community? No one likes someone being “fake” but we struggle to let down our fabrications, especially because of […]
Growing up, I always remember the fun involved in putting on a costume. Dressing up as an army solider or a rough and tough cowboy was something my imagination could run wild on. As a child, there was little need for extravagant material for these costumes. A simple bandanna over my face and a wooden […]
Everyone has relationships that don’t work out for the long haul and relational pain that came out of those connections. In my journey of growing and helping others experience transformation, I have found that so many people carry deep relationship frustration; combustion that turns into deep resentment and bitterness. The Missing Ingredient Yet over and […]
Everyone reading this has or will go through many different challenges that grip you to the core. Jesus said, “In this world you will have trouble.” (John 16:33) He wasn’t prophesying doom over us, but letting us know in sober awareness that we will be hit with various circumstances that will seek to overwhelm us […]
If there is a class that everyone should go through, its how to walk through effective conflict resolution. One of the reasons today’s relationships only go so far, is that we do not know how to effectively walk through conflict together. Without this skill operating, our relationships will not be honest and empowering. We will […]
Relationships and communication are the foundation to healthy living. Without it, we don’t have churches, business or even families. God created these connections to be the conduit by which we would understand how to process our relationship with Him better. The invisible God desire’s to make Himself visible through healthy relationships that operate in a […]
Forgiveness is one of the most foundational, yet often under-practiced habits in life. Without forgiveness, we’d never experience intimate relationship with God and healthy relationships with others. Our health and wholeness depend on our ability to forgive, yet when you look at the landscape of our world, it seems that people all around are manifesting the […]
In the years I worked in pastoral ministry, I was very familiar in processing the departure of people from the church from various roles, as a staff pastor and also as a lead pastor. I found that most of the time this played out in a rather unpleasant way. Rarely was it ever a good experience […]
When I wrote the book Bitter Free in 2015, it was not from a place of theory or book knowledge. Little did I know in 2004 when I went all in for personal healing and transformation, that I would be challenged to the core relationaly. When Jesus said in the last days hatred would […]