The most frustrating tactic in Satan’s toolbox is his ability to twist and distort our communication with each other. Being able to communicate is the primary mechanism we have as humans to have relationship with God or others. Satan knows if those communication lines get distorted, then we are all sunk. A rejection mindset works within the realms of communication between people, twisting our words and meaning so love is not exchanged properly.
What we hear is not what is really being said. What we say back comes out of our own distorted hurt. Words are thrown back and the war ensues.
The most frustrating tactic in Satan’s toolbox is his ability to twist and distort our communication with each other.
In the Old Testament, there is a spiritual picture of Satan’s work as a dragon-like creature named Leviathan.[1] One of his characteristics is that he is a twisted serpent. That is what Satan does to everything, he twists it. This includes communication. This deadly serpent lies in the deeper waters of life, where people desire to get closer to God and closer to each other. We have to understand that all Satan has to do is get the communication twisted and we are all fighting with each other and separating from one another. What is being heard is not what is being said, but rather a twisted version. That twisted interpretation ignites further problems. The more you try to explain and argue, the worse things will get. If we do not deal with the rejection strongholds in our life properly, this twistedness will be a part of the communication of all of our relationships. It will exhaust everyone involved and create division left and right.
That is what Satan does to everything, he twists it.
I find that people with a twisted lens will even twist the relationship when there is a gap in communication or seasons of silence for any reason. They will take any silence or lapse in communication as perceived rejection. We’ve all fallen prey to this. We assume the negative and create an entirely negative scenario that most likely isn’t even true. We email a friend. We never hear back. We assume it’s because they don’t like us. We don’t realize the friend had an emergency and on top of that, had issues where their emails were not going through. Our rejection lens painted a picture of something quite different.
Healthy relationships always give the benefit to the other person, assuming the best until you are clearly shown otherwise in direct communication. We have all had gaps in relationship communication. If we choose to fill those gaps with distrust, suspicion and strife, then the enemy wins in being able to distort and eventually split relationships.
Question: Where has communication been twisted in your relationships? What do you find helpful to overcome this?
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[1] Isaiah 27:1