What is a Real Man?

It can be very hard for a man to address his brokenness because of our preconceived notions of what a man is supposed to be. Most of what is shown today in modern masculinity has nothing to do with being a real man.

A real man, according to the Bible, is a man who allows God to deal with the deep areas of his heart. With that heart connection, he is to represent love in every facet of society, beginning in his home.

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The home is actually where men struggle the most today. They are more comfortable at work and athletic events, because these areas do not bring out the same vulnerabilities as the home does. Quite often, the most uncomfortable place for a man is in his own house. He struggles to emotionally connect and relate to his wife and children.

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Some men fear showing their emotions and brokeness. For many men, it is seen as a sign of weakness and a lack of masculinity. However, the Bible is filled with real men that were able to show their emotions and vulnerabilities. If we study the life of King David in the Scriptures, we find a man that was very sensitive, but extremely masculine at the same time. He would weep and weep in the presence of God, while penning some of the most anointed songs of worship ever written. Yet if you were his enemy in a war, he would slice your head off without hesitation. This is a passionate man with a heart that is inclined to God.

In the Gospels, Jesus was righteously indignant over the misuse of selling that was going on at the temple. In this fiery response, He not only flipped some tables, He also made a whip and drove the money changers out. That’s a passionate man! Yet this same person would cry over the city of Jerusalem and the hardness that the people carried. He wept over the loss of a friend who just died. Even though He would raise Lazarus from the dead, Jesus still wept over the pain of that momentary loss.

God is doing a strong work to realign what a godly man looks like, according to the Word, not what the world says. The insecurity of men has caused a tremendous confusion in being able to manifest true masculinity. Because of their broken hearts, men have lost their sense of adventure to spread the deep love of God to all generations. In their void, men can get lost in passivity and become confused in their gender.

There is a shaking in the church that needs to happen with our precious men. This movement will not occur just at a men’s meeting or by someone lecturing them. This will take a dynamic touch of the heart and an unwavering desire to change the status quo of manhood. When the heart of a man is shifted, the world will encounter change. This all begins with men’s hearts being healed and filled with the love of Daddy.

What is your definition of a real man? Write your comments below. 

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Mark DeJesus has been equipping people in a full time capacity since 1995, serving in various roles, including, teaching people of all ages, communicating through music, authoring books, leading and mentoring. Mark's deepest love is his family; his wife Melissa, son Maximus and daughter Abigail. Mark is a teacher, author and mentor who uses many communication mediums, including the written word, a weekly radio podcast show and videos. His deepest call involves equipping people to live as overcomers. Through understanding inside out transformation, Mark's message involves getting to the root of issues that contribute to the breakdown of our relationships, our health and our day to day peace. He is passionately reaching his world with a transforming message of love, healing and freedom. Out of their own personal renewal, Mark and Melissa founded Turning Hearts Ministries, a ministry dedicated to inside out transformation. Mark also founded Transformed You, a communication platform for Mark’s teachings, writing and broadcasts that are designed to encourage people in their journey of transformation. Mark and Melissa currently live in Connecticut.

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