There is a root that is common in all addiction issues. Whether it be drugs, pornography or workaholism, the core issue is all the same. It has to do with how well we are processing love in our hearts.
God created us for love. We have a love bucket that needs to be filled by Him and others through healthy relationships. When that need to be loved is not filled, a festering, excessive need develops that is never satisfied. We then become vulnerable to addictions.
Addictions creep in where love has been compromised or absent or where abuse has been instead of loving acceptance. Rejection fuels this excessive need to be loved through driving us toward addictions.
The Root Problem to Addictions
The key root issue that is common in all addiction battles is the excessive, unmet need to be loved.
It is important to note that addictions are inappropriate responses to a valid need. The enemy knows how to control you by taking advantage of your needs. Satan knows you need the Father’s love, but he make you think you can satisfy those needs in other ways, especially when you have never been taught how to walk in the love of God.
Our Response to Pain
When we are not loved properly, go through stress or carry inward pain we are tempted to numb that place in our hearts. Teenagers will get involved with crazy crowds and say yes to dangerous behaviors when they are in pain. The same is true for adults. Brokenness and hurt have spawned all kinds of dysfunction. Those who are abused can often fall into some kind of addiction to cope with the pain of the horrific experiences.
Lack of Nurture
This excessive need to be loved also involves a lack of nurture, something we either learned or did not learn from our mothers. Nurture helps us deal with and process pain in a healthy manner. It is in the realm of love that we receive comfort, something the Holy Spirit of God does. Those who did not learn nurture are absolutely wide open for addictions, especially during times of stress, tumult or pain. This lack of nurture causes people to be insecure and have low self-worth and to often find a way to cope through an addictive pathway.
Addictions will lie to us, convincing us that we are not loved by God or anyone else. It will tell us that we need a “fix” to make ourselves feel better.
Addictions mess with two key areas; our safety and security. Security has to do with our identity. Safety addresses our ability to know we are loved and cared for. Safety asks, “am I loved and cared for?” Security says, “Who am I?”
Those who have a deep unmet need to be loved will be unable to obtain solid answers to these questions, leaving them wide open to the assault of addictions.
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