For the perfectionist, I believe they are in a constant state of fight AND flight, where their stress response is in overdrive. Their constant busy living and avoidance keeps them from dealing with matters of the heart that need compassionate healing and grace. In this broadcast, I want to lay out how the stress response […]
One of the greatest needs that perfectionists have is nurture, the need to find comfort through unconditional loving care. Perfectionists have an inner critic that drowns out the nurturing voice they need. It amplifies criticism, shame and judgment. So we continue to live in with a ball of emotional pressure on a daily basis. Instead […]
The mindset of perfectionism drives a message of “just right” but “never enough” that seeks to infiltrate how we think, believe, act and process relationships. Yet in the healing process, I have found there are four blocks that often get in the way of healing the perfectionist’s heart. I have observed them in my own […]
Those who battle with the influence of perfectionism and obsessive compulsive struggles are not typically aware of how much shame actually drives their life. In this broadcast, I want to peal back the layers of OCD and perfectionism, to get to the heart of the shame battles we carry that need acknowledgement, grieving and healing. […]
You asked for it! Thanks to tall the kind and encouragement feedback we have received, we are continuing down a theme of sharing some of the recent personal struggles we find ourselves navigating through, as Melissa and I continue to experience healing and freedom. Today I get into a deep theme of perfectionism that has […]
The words Christian and perfectionism should not go together, but you will find perfectionism amongst Christianity all around. Has its influence taken hold of how you practice your faith? You may need to ask yourself, “Am I a perfectionist?” Some see perfectionism as a completely admirable trait. Many fail to see the long term dangers […]
To experience heart healing, you have to understand how to work through and navigate the emotional life of your heart in healthy ways. But if you have perfectionism influencing your life, the healing journey gets extremely difficult and even sidetracked. The perfectionistic mindset is always driving a pressure of “just right” that is never good […]
What does emotional neglect have to do with perfectionism? And how does that effect your mental and emotional health at work? Today I will break down a question that was sent in about emotional neglect and how to heal through mental health and perfectionism, especially when it comes to the workplace. Video Broadcast: Recommended Resources: […]
For many OCD strugglers, it can be evident that underneath all the constant obsessions and compulsions is a underlying depression that never gets addressed and nurtured. OCD is fueled by perfectionism and quite often, perfectionists have a depression that they try to “fix” by making sure their thoughts and actions are “just right,” yet they […]
Today I am responding to a question that was recently submitted about fear, anger, irritability and more. As I respond to the email, allow me to help bring insight and perspective to where we can actually become very obsessive compulsive about anger rising up or issues that trigger anger. Many people become obsessive compulsive about […]