8 Ways People Pleasing Will Destroy Your Life

The Dangers of the Disease to Please

Is people pleasing eating away at your life? People pleasing is the practice of doing things to keep others happy, without consideration of your desire and choice. Many people live in bondage to people pleasing, but they don’t see it as an unhealthy thing. They think they are doing God’s work, when in reality they […]

#146: Helping Men Experience Heart Healing

What Works Against Him and How to Move into Freedom

When the subject of heart healing is brought to the table, females will more than likely listen in quickly and embrace the process of spiritual and emotional heart healing. But why is it that so many men struggle dealing with pain, emotions or issues of the heart? Why is it than a large percentage of […]

One of the greatest core struggles manifesting today is the lack of identity. Missing from the heart’s of people is a true confidence in knowing who they are and what makes them unique in this world to make a difference. God has given each of us a powerful identity, but it is very rare to find those who are securely connected to it.

The reason this problem exists in great measure is because we never affirmed in our identity. Identity must be fathered and bestowed into our hearts, or we will spend our lives performing for an identity or looking for approval in all the wrong places.

Every temptation and struggle we have in our lives leads back to forgetting the power of who we are. The restoration process must involve a building of our identity as God sees us and living from the simplicity of being God’s child.

Jesus needed the experience of His Father speaking and affirming His identity. If Jesus needed to hear who He was, then you and I certainly need to hear who we are. In this teaching, I will help you to see the need to know who you are and the three needs we all carry: the need for love, the need to know who we are and the need for approval and validation.

To get to the root of identity struggles, get your copy of Exposing the Rejection Mindset.

To learn to love yourself in who God made you to be, get God Loves Me and I Love Myself.

Special thanks to Jordan Rio for his amazing videography on this message. 


God works His greatest power in and amongst our relationships. Yet personal relationships are often the greatest place of battles that people face.

Relationships can be incredibly challenging, but are worth the investment if we go into them with healthy mindsets. Yet we all have relationships that become incredibly toxic. We look to get away from these relationships because of how much they negatively affect us.

But before you write off the other person as having a whole list of toxic issues, be sure to check the filters that you do relationships. We often carry 3 hindering assumptions that make us blame everyone else and keep us from moving forward into what is available for us relationally.

Do you carry these hindering assumptions into your relationships?

  1. That you know people’s motives. (You not only know what they did, but you claim to know why they did it.)
  2. Your discernment about other people is 100% spot on. (Too much of what we call discernment is our own brokenness being projected onto others.)
  3. That other people can 100% satisfy your inner needs.

Many often say the words, “Just be yourself.” But most people do not even know what that means or what it looks like.

We have spent our lives trying to be someone else or trying to be someone that others expected us to be. In addition, we serve a lot of ways of thinking, where we say, “this is just who I am.” which is not always true.

We are the most powerfully anointed when we simply learn to be ourselves.

But what does it mean to “be yourself” while you are in the midst of transformation?

In this video, I share about some key things you can do today to enter into the rest of simply being yourself.

  1. Let go of pressure.
  2. Let go of performance.
  3. Let go of fabrication.
  4. Let go of comparison.
  5. Become vulnerable.
  6. Learn to be a child….God’s child. 
  7. Learn to practice who you really are.

Engage the most powerful sense of Who You Are as God’s child as you best know now.

For a great resource on living true to who God made you to be, check out Exposing the Rejection Mindset.

#144: Parenting a Child with Autism (Part 1)

Our Honest Journey of Overcoming as a Family

This is one of our most honest and vulnerable episodes, as we share the journey of parenting a child with autism. This episode is Part one of a two part series. Today the autism spectrum disorder affects nearly 1 in 68 children in the United States, which has risen 30% from only two years ago, where […]

I wrote a blog article years ago about my experience of healing from acid reflux and other stomach related issues.

I also addressed this subject in a podcast episode.

But I wanted to put together another video to give you some things I learned and also some things to keep in mind when it comes to healing of our digestion tract.

For more information on overcoming anxiety, worry and stress, get your copy of I Will Not Fear.


The Day My Busy Life Was Confronted

When I Realized that a Jam Packed Multitasking Life Was Not Healthy

In the name of accomplishment, people crave getting more done and doing multiple things all at the same time. Multitasking has become a more commonplace term, as computers have given us the ability to have more than one program open and operating at the same time. Humans have become trained to think and live like […]

Why Are We So Busy?

Getting to the Real Reason We Struggle to Slow Down

When we lack identity security, a rejection mindset will train us to find validation in being “productive.” Inside, lies a wound that we think will be healed by chasing achievement and a non-stop schedule. Stillness is seen as lazy.  We think that the endless activity will grant us fulfillment and give us a sense of identity. Fear keeps us busy. […]