The Negative Effects of Judgmentalism

One of the deadly effects of toxic relationship patterns is that we can end up releasing words of judgment over people that have wronged us in some way, as a retaliatory response. Out of a place of hurt, we say things about others that are judge the other person’s motives and slander who they are.

Oh how we forget that our words can release blessing or cursing, life or death. In today’s culture, we can even devalue the power of our words. We say thing all the time with little awareness of how our words effect our spiritual life and those around us. With expressions like, “I’m just saying it like it is!” or “I’m just venting” we can often forget that what we speak has an effect. And many times, our expressions can be filled with vile judgment against others.

I have watched many attempt to walk in healthy relationships, but they still walk with a judgmental attitude against others. Retaliation is still in effect, often because they are seeking justice first. They want payback, because their heart is to see justice manifested. Resentment and retaliation will take a genuine desire for justice and twist it, to keep us from understanding higher truths: mercy and forgiveness.

If you love justice, you are in good company, because God loves justice too! (Isaiah 61:8) But justice cannot be done on your own terms. If you do, you walk out of the grace of God and enter into a realm of pure law. We can often forgive someone, but continue to say things like, “They’re gonna get sick.” or “They don’t know how to manage their money. They’re gonna stay broke their whole life.”

Judgmental words put us in a position of contempt against other people. The word contempt is defined as “a feeling that someone or something is not worthy of any respect or approval.” Contempt sets us up as superior to someone else, where we release judgmental words from our perceived higher position. This is distasteful in the eyes of God, who sent His Son to die so that we could walk in gracious forgiveness towards one another.

Here’s the truth: these judgments can keep you blocked and capped in your life. When you operate justice from your own hands with judgmental words, you put yourself on the level with Old Testament law and you remove yourself from the grace dimension. When you live in grace, you love, forgive and release blessing, while leaving the justice in God’s hands. The sign of someone who forgives is that they genuinely wish blessing on their enemies and do not wish them harm.

Many people fail to move forward because of the judgments they speak about others. These words are harmful to others, but worse off, they keep you stuck in your own life. Jesus taught that “with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you.” However you judge others is how God will deal with you. Want to see God’s grace and mercy in your life? Give it out in all your relationships.

Do you feel stuck in life? It would be good to repent and renounce of judgmentalism towards others. Cast down negative words you have said about others and take responsibility for where you have operated in this condemning mindset. Step into grace and see people the way God see them.

When we operate in grace, we make sure our words are seasoned with salt, so they add value to others. At the very least, we can still retain a heart of honor, even when talking about the harsh or abusive acts of others. Don’t let the hurt of others defeat you by becoming judgmental. It only furthers defile the potential in your life.

Question: In what ways does is it challenging to not be judgmental?

 

Mark DeJesus has been equipping people in a full time capacity since 1995, serving in various roles, including, teaching people of all ages, communicating through music, authoring books, leading and mentoring. Mark's deepest love is his family; his wife Melissa, son Maximus and daughter Abigail. Mark is a teacher, author and mentor who uses many communication mediums, including the written word, a weekly radio podcast show and videos. His deepest call involves equipping people to live as overcomers. Through understanding inside out transformation, Mark's message involves getting to the root of issues that contribute to the breakdown of our relationships, our health and our day to day peace. He is passionately reaching his world with a transforming message of love, healing and freedom. Out of their own personal renewal, Mark and Melissa founded Turning Hearts Ministries, a ministry dedicated to inside out transformation. Mark also founded Transformed You, a communication platform for Mark’s teachings, writing and broadcasts that are designed to encourage people in their journey of transformation. Mark and Melissa currently live in Connecticut.

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