#156: How to Cultivate Safe Relationships

What Do They Look Like and How Can We Experience Them?

Safe Relationships

What causes more relationship problems than anything else is when safety is not present in a relational connection. Where there is safety, healing, loving and transformation can be experienced. When it’s not there, some of the greatest hurt and damage can be inflicted into people’s lives. We already have tender areas of our hearts that […]

Healing The Detached Heart

Awakening the Disconnect in our Hearts

Heart, Detached Heart

The lights are on but no one’s home. I am concerned when I look into the eyes of many in this generation. There is this glaze; at time a numbness, showing signs of disconnect from a healthy heart life. The detached heart is an inability to emotionally connect to God or to others. With a detached […]

The War Over Relationship Health

Are You Aware of the Invisible War Against Love?

War Over Healthy Relationships

Everything in your life rises and falls on your ability to live in healthy relationships. Your spiritual well-being, emotional stability, mental wellness and even physical health will all be impacted by your relationship with: God Yourself Your world around you All three relationships need to be wrapped in the power of love for you to […]

A Call for Relationship Healing

Addressing Our Brokenness that Sabotages Effectiveness

Relationship Healing

God is in the business of healing and restoring our relationships like never before. The struggles we all face show us that we need to grow deeper in love and stronger in who we are. God is a Father, so His highest priority is to mature the identity of His sons and daughters. The manifestation […]

Self-Rejection and Relationship Sabotage

When People Love You More than You Love Yourself

Relationship Sabotage, Self-Rejection

Relationships only thrive within the exchange of mutual love. But if someone loves you more than you love yourself, there is a change you may end up engaging relationship sabotage. It can be easy to find reasons why you don’t like the person and then do things that contribute to the dissolving of the relationship. It’s common rut to find reasons why people […]

God works His greatest power in and amongst our relationships. Yet personal relationships are often the greatest place of battles that people face.

Relationships can be incredibly challenging, but are worth the investment if we go into them with healthy mindsets. Yet we all have relationships that become incredibly toxic. We look to get away from these relationships because of how much they negatively affect us.

But before you write off the other person as having a whole list of toxic issues, be sure to check the filters that you do relationships. We often carry 3 hindering assumptions that make us blame everyone else and keep us from moving forward into what is available for us relationally.

Do you carry these hindering assumptions into your relationships?

  1. That you know people’s motives. (You not only know what they did, but you claim to know why they did it.)
  2. Your discernment about other people is 100% spot on. (Too much of what we call discernment is our own brokenness being projected onto others.)
  3. That other people can 100% satisfy your inner needs.

#138: How Vulnerable Should You Be?

Engaging Authentic Connection and Overcoming the Hinderances

The only way to have powerful relationships is to live with healthy vulnerability. Yet we’ve all had those experiences where we’ve shared our hearts, opened up a sensitive area in our life and another person or group didn’t handle it with care. We end up with a choice, we either close that area off, deciding […]

Removing Our Relational Masks

Tear Down Our Fabrications and Living Authentically

The deepest cry of all humanity is authentic relationship–being able to connect, belong and feel safe amongst people we can be ourselves with. But how can we do this if we are all walled up when in community? No one likes someone being “fake” but we struggle to let down our fabrications, especially because of […]

Confronting Our Relational Fabrications

Courage to Let Down Your Walls and Be Yourself

Growing up, I always remember the fun involved in putting on a costume. Dressing up as an army solider or a rough and tough cowboy was something my imagination could run wild on. As a child, there was little need for extravagant material for these costumes. A simple bandanna over my face and a wooden […]