God works His greatest power in and amongst our relationships. Yet personal relationships are often the greatest place of battles that people face.
Relationships can be incredibly challenging, but are worth the investment if we go into them with healthy mindsets. Yet we all have relationships that become incredibly toxic. We look to get away from these relationships because of how much they negatively affect us.
But before you write off the other person as having a whole list of toxic issues, be sure to check the filters that you do relationships. We often carry 3 hindering assumptions that make us blame everyone else and keep us from moving forward into what is available for us relationally.
Do you carry these hindering assumptions into your relationships?
- That you know people’s motives. (You not only know what they did, but you claim to know why they did it.)
- Your discernment about other people is 100% spot on. (Too much of what we call discernment is our own brokenness being projected onto others.)
- That other people can 100% satisfy your inner needs.
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