The Relationship and Identity Destroyer: The Rejection Mindset

Confront the Main Block to All Relationship Health and Freedom

Rejection Mindset, Rejection

Experiencing rejection is incredibly painful. Yet there is nothing more deadly to relational health than when we carry a rejection mindset. Masses of people do not even realize they are infected with it. Meanwhile, a rejection mindset is behind just about every relationship breakdown and the drama that ensues. Rejection is a Mindset It’s important […]

10 Toxic Stages of Performance Based Christianity

Are You Stuck in the Performance Hamster Wheel?

Performance Based Christianity Hamster Wheel

Getting free of performance based Christianity will revolutionize your life, but I have found that many people need to untangle themselves from the cycle that this kind of living produces. Unfortunately, the toxic thread of performance has woven itself into every almost every fabric of people’s lives. Getting free is possible and life changing, but it takes intentional […]

Stop Self-Rejection and Begin Loving Yourself

Loving and Accepting Yourself as God's Creation

Accepting Yourself, Loving Yourself, Freedom from Self-Rejection

Many have asked me in response to reading my material, “What do I do about the self-rejection patterns in my life?” This section will give the keys needed to break out of self-rejection and love yourself as God’s creation. Ignoring Your Heart Health is Not Spiritual While it might seem like you are being “selfless” […]

Self-Rejection and Relationship Sabotage

When People Love You More than You Love Yourself

Relationship Sabotage, Self-Rejection

Relationships only thrive within the exchange of mutual love. But if someone loves you more than you love yourself, there is a change you may end up engaging relationship sabotage. It can be easy to find reasons why you don’t like the person and then do things that contribute to the dissolving of the relationship. It’s common rut to find reasons why people […]

Self Rejection: When Did It Become OK to Not Like Yourself?

Signs of Self-Rejection and How It Has Become so Commonly Accepted

Spend 10 minutes with a group of toddlers or elementary school children and you will find two common threads in their lives—a lot of energy and a great desire to be someone when they grow up. Instilled in our young sons and daughters is an endless list of options they dream of stepping into someday, […]

#114: What Keeps us Living Like Victims [Podcast]

In this week’s episode, we want to uncover the victim mentality and expose how it keeps us trapped from moving forward in our transformation and fruitfulness. All of us face obstacles and limitations that seek to keep us from moving forward. Eventually, many get weary and give up. Or they simply stop pressing forward with […]

#111: Freedom from Performance Based Christianity [Podcast]

In this week’s episode, we want to tackle the subject of performance based Christianity and performance based living. Jesus confronted the mindset and lifestyle of the Pharisees, for how they strapped people with legalism and a religiousness that missed the heart of God. The Pharisees fueled a performance based spiritual life, where people were put […]

#081: Do You Talk Too Much or Not At All? [Podcast]

In today’s episode we want to ask the question, “Do you talk too much or not at all?” Relationships are all about communication, but if we’re talking too much, the other person has no place to connect or gain heart connection. But what about if you don’t talk much at all? People are missing out […]

#074: Why Do People Keep Hurting Me? [Podcast]

This week’s episode focuses on the subject, “Why Do People Keep Hurting Me?” Do you feel like you have been working on healthy relationships and can’t seem to break free of the old ones? Do you have continual pain in relationships that does not change? Do you keep attracting unhealthy people?  This episode is for you! […]