One of the greatest core struggles manifesting today is the lack of identity. Missing from the heart’s of people is a true confidence in knowing who they are and what makes them unique in this world to make a difference. God has given each of us a powerful identity, but it is very rare to find those who are securely connected to it.

The reason this problem exists in great measure is because we never affirmed in our identity. Identity must be fathered and bestowed into our hearts, or we will spend our lives performing for an identity or looking for approval in all the wrong places.

Every temptation and struggle we have in our lives leads back to forgetting the power of who we are. The restoration process must involve a building of our identity as God sees us and living from the simplicity of being God’s child.

Jesus needed the experience of His Father speaking and affirming His identity. If Jesus needed to hear who He was, then you and I certainly need to hear who we are. In this teaching, I will help you to see the need to know who you are and the three needs we all carry: the need for love, the need to know who we are and the need for approval and validation.

To get to the root of identity struggles, get your copy of Exposing the Rejection Mindset.

To learn to love yourself in who God made you to be, get God Loves Me and I Love Myself.

Special thanks to Jordan Rio for his amazing videography on this message. 


Many often say the words, “Just be yourself.” But most people do not even know what that means or what it looks like.

We have spent our lives trying to be someone else or trying to be someone that others expected us to be. In addition, we serve a lot of ways of thinking, where we say, “this is just who I am.” which is not always true.

We are the most powerfully anointed when we simply learn to be ourselves.

But what does it mean to “be yourself” while you are in the midst of transformation?

In this video, I share about some key things you can do today to enter into the rest of simply being yourself.

  1. Let go of pressure.
  2. Let go of performance.
  3. Let go of fabrication.
  4. Let go of comparison.
  5. Become vulnerable.
  6. Learn to be a child….God’s child. 
  7. Learn to practice who you really are.

Engage the most powerful sense of Who You Are as God’s child as you best know now.

For a great resource on living true to who God made you to be, check out Exposing the Rejection Mindset.

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