#163: Can You Be a Pastor’s Wife and Not Go Crazy? Part 2

Being Intentional About a Healthy Journey

Pastor's Wife

Pastor’s wives can be the most overlooked group of people in the body of Christ. It’s often assumed that she will just take care of herself. Meanwhile, unhealthy demands and expectations are added on that do not cultivate a healthy environment. As we continue the discussion about the life of a pastor’s wife, we want […]

#162: Can You Be a Pastor’s Wife and Not Go Crazy? Part 1

What Hinders Her Sanity and What to do About It

Pastor's Wife

When it comes to the health and wholeness of a church body, I rarely hear much addressed when it comes to the wives of male leaders in the church. It often gets subtly pushed into the background. Most church culture assumes the leaders in a church will just figure out how to remain healthy as […]

I have been spending a lot of time emphasizing the need for healing from spiritual abuse. Unhealed hearts will breed unsafe environments for people to process through their spiritual walk with God. Instead of safety, abuse can easily manifest if there is not a priority for people to live healthy, one with another.

In teaching the course on Healing from Spiritual Abuse, I am including some bonus material on what healthy environments can look like. In this video I give seven key leadership manifestations that show there is signs of health in the culture. I have extracted this from over 20 years of working in different levels of leadership, being a senior leader myself and then spending thousands of hours with people in personal sessions.

As you watch the video, you will see the 7 Manifestations of Healthy Church Leadership:

  1. A healthy mindset of serving, not as slaves, but as sons and daughters. (There’s a big difference!)
  2. Clarity and order, not in a controlling manner, but to give a sense of clarity to the culture.
  3. Loving covering and safety, where love is demonstrated in the culture.
  4. Emotional health and integrity is a high priority and value.
  5. A strong reference for the Word of God that keeps relationships grounded in sanity.
  6. Relational security, where healthy communication, conflict resolution and fruitful discussions can happen.
  7. Empowerment, where people are equipped and built up into their personal potential.

For more insights, join us in Healing from Spiritual Abuse.

10 Ways a Church Operates Like a Cult More than a Healthy Family

Cults form when Culture Gets Dysfunctional

Words are really tricky, so addressing the term “cult” can get very complicated, especially because it’s not always used in the right context. This may come as a surprise to you, but the real meaning of the word cult is not 100% negative. Cult is derived from the word culture and can describe the unity […]

#157: Healing from Spiritual Abuse: Part 1

What It Is and How Deeply it Infects People

Healing from Spiritual Abuse

One of the biggest issues that comes our way has to with the subject of spiritual abuse. Masses of people are coming for help because of abuse they have experienced from someone in church or a ministry, be it a spiritual leader, pastor or someone of influence in their life. The repercussions are intense. For […]

#124: Do You Have a Religious Spirit? [Podcast]

Religion is defined as a particular system of faith and worship. It gives structure to the overall ways in which we have our daily practices and gatherings to connect with God and with each other. There is nothing wrong with the basic aspect of religion, because it forms our faith, beliefs and practice. But what […]

Is Your Organization Infected by a Political Spirit?

Politics often bring out the worst in relationships. It seems the ugliest in people show up, making relationships hostile, decisions harsh and attacks abounding. People begin to act like barbarians living in survival; cutting off the heads and betraying those they once had relationship with. We often criticize how dirty and ruthless politics can be, […]