Pastor’s wives can be the most overlooked group of people in the body of Christ. It’s often assumed that she will just take care of herself. Meanwhile, unhealthy demands and expectations are added on that do not cultivate a healthy environment. As we continue the discussion about the life of a pastor’s wife, we want […]
When it comes to the health and wholeness of a church body, I rarely hear much addressed when it comes to the wives of male leaders in the church. It often gets subtly pushed into the background. Most church culture assumes the leaders in a church will just figure out how to remain healthy as […]
I have been spending a lot of time emphasizing the need for healing from spiritual abuse. Unhealed hearts will breed unsafe environments for people to process through their spiritual walk with God. Instead of safety, abuse can easily manifest if there is not a priority for people to live healthy, one with another.
In teaching the course on Healing from Spiritual Abuse, I am including some bonus material on what healthy environments can look like. In this video I give seven key leadership manifestations that show there is signs of health in the culture. I have extracted this from over 20 years of working in different levels of leadership, being a senior leader myself and then spending thousands of hours with people in personal sessions.
As you watch the video, you will see the 7 Manifestations of Healthy Church Leadership:
- A healthy mindset of serving, not as slaves, but as sons and daughters. (There’s a big difference!)
- Clarity and order, not in a controlling manner, but to give a sense of clarity to the culture.
- Loving covering and safety, where love is demonstrated in the culture.
- Emotional health and integrity is a high priority and value.
- A strong reference for the Word of God that keeps relationships grounded in sanity.
- Relational security, where healthy communication, conflict resolution and fruitful discussions can happen.
- Empowerment, where people are equipped and built up into their personal potential.
For more insights, join us in Healing from Spiritual Abuse.
Words are really tricky, so addressing the term “cult” can get very complicated, especially because it’s not always used in the right context. This may come as a surprise to you, but the real meaning of the word cult is not 100% negative. Cult is derived from the word culture and can describe the unity […]
One of the biggest issues that comes our way has to with the subject of spiritual abuse. Masses of people are coming for help because of abuse they have experienced from someone in church or a ministry, be it a spiritual leader, pastor or someone of influence in their life. The repercussions are intense. For […]
Religion is defined as a particular system of faith and worship. It gives structure to the overall ways in which we have our daily practices and gatherings to connect with God and with each other. There is nothing wrong with the basic aspect of religion, because it forms our faith, beliefs and practice. But what […]
Politics often bring out the worst in relationships. It seems the ugliest in people show up, making relationships hostile, decisions harsh and attacks abounding. People begin to act like barbarians living in survival; cutting off the heads and betraying those they once had relationship with. We often criticize how dirty and ruthless politics can be, […]
In the years I worked in pastoral ministry, I was very familiar in processing the departure of people from the church from various roles, as a staff pastor and also as a lead pastor. I found that most of the time this played out in a rather unpleasant way. Rarely was it ever a good experience […]
I have been concerned over the years that what is often looked at as pastoring is not always true pastoring. A pastor is a shepherd, who watches over and bring nurture to the life of the sheep. Jesus is the Good Shepherd, so He certainly is the greatest model of pastoring. I am not sure […]
If you find yourself in a new church for various reasons; maybe you moved to a new location, you had to leave a previous fellowship or you have been out of church for a while; there are some great mindsets that can help you make the best of your journey in a new church fellowship. […]