7 Things You May Not Know About Pornography Addiction

Pornography addiction has been growing for decades. The advent of the internet and social media made access to forbidden images available at the touch of a button. Sexual addiction, including pornography, hits Christians and non-Christians alike. To many, porn addiction has become socially acceptable, while this struggles plagues the hearts and minds of millions of people.

How has pornography affected your life? Here are some things you may not know about this issue:

1. Pornography Addiction is Pandemic.

If you get shocked to hear someone has a battle with porn, you may need to get rid of some naivety. In my experience coaching people through personal battles, I have observed pornography finding its way into every kind of scenario, from CEOs and successful businessmen to pastors and Christian leaders. The struggle is very real and widespread.

2. Men Are Not the Only Ones Who Have this Struggle Anymore

Years ago, it was assumed that pornography struggles was exclusively a male one. That has all changed in recent years. With the rise of sexual confusion and indulgence, pornography addiction now effects females in greater numbers. In addition, romance novels have kicked the intensity of fantasy sex to higher levels, creating entire worlds of emotional escape that play on the broken hearted and emotionally numbed out population.

3. Our Introduction to Sex in Life is a Factor

For many, our introduction to the topic of sex was not a healthy one, nor a pleasant one. If you ask most, “What was your introduction to the subject of sex?” you will often find two kinds of answers. The first involves a traumatic experience or finding pornography as a young child, before one had the chance to grow up and learn at an appropriate time.

The other answer involves a legalistic, cold and uncomfortable approach in the home. Sex was never discussed. If it was, it was always in a negative or condemning way. Most people’s story of “the talk” they got from their parents was on their list of Top Ten Embarrassing Moments. This discomfort in the home caused children to hide their sexual thoughts and struggles in the dark. There was not a healthy context given to build a healthy view of sex in our lives.

Many grow up with an unclean spirit regarding sex. The consequences of sexual sin was emphasized, so therefore, sex in total was seen as bad. The proper context was not talked about and modeled. Only the bad was highlighted.

“Don’t have sex before marriage!” But what does that even look like, especially when the parents giving this advice didn’t follow that model themselves? The only solution is to create an honest atmosphere where we work through the discomfort and leave the light on regarding this subject. Otherwise we leave our families vulnerable to the enemy’s devices as family members ponder the subject of sex in the dark.

4. Pornography Addiction Hijacks the Brain

The greatest deception of pornography habits is that no one will know. But the effects are very real. Pornography addiction is typically connected to acting out in fantasy or masturbation. This dopamine rush programs the brain to want more. Over time, the rush does not satisfy and something more intense is needed.

Pornography will make one lazy regarding true sex with their spouse. They become programmed to have a certain level of intensity in their marriage bedroom they witnessed online. The portrayal of sex in porn is not reality, but there becomes a deep imbedding of a counterfeit expectation. This makes sex in marriage boring to the porn addict, leading them to go back to the ease of their destructive habit.

5. Porn Trains us to Be Lazy Regarding Intimacy

Pornography displays sex as quick, easy and always intense. This is not real relationship–ever. But those who allow pornography addiction to remain will struggle with real life intimacy. Very little work is done on communicating, sharing heart to heart and engaging in physical touch without it automatically needing to lead to sex. Working on personal intimacy issues is often avoided.

Modern culture portrays sex as a constant intensity, with little emphasis for how much work real relationship is. In fact, many couples struggle with sex when they get married. Yet because of how sex is portrayed, they think they are the only ones on the planet who have this struggle. Porn has trained culture that sex is easy and requires little relational skills.

6. Shame Keeps us from Conquering this issue Effectively

Most people don’t share about this battle because they live in a world of shame regarding the battle. This is due to the shame they carry internally, combined with the shame people have in their responses. If someone in your church or group of friends admitted to this battle, how would you respond? In order for this battle to be healed effectively, we have to stop shaming people. Listen, the battle is everywhere, so lets stop acting so shocked when people admit to it. Instead, be a loving vessel for healing and restoration.

7. Pornography Addiction Attacks Unhealed Brokenness

Many Christians emphasize attacking lust to combat the problem of sexual addiction of all kinds. But that’s just swinging at the branches. It’s not getting to the root issue. Pornography addiction comes out of an excessive need to be loved, with a rejection spirit connected to this. It usually goes back to their relationship with their father. They never received the revelation of a father’s love over their life. Without a father’s love over our life, a man will look to the woman’s beauty to satisfy that emptiness. A woman can never satisfy the father wound of a man. Women who never experience solid love and mentoring from a father will run to a man to fill that need to be loved. The enemy gains access to the places where we have not been loved properly.

Web filters and accountability partner are helpful, but if we don’t address the wounds of the heart, the pull of pornography will become too powerful. But when the love of Father God is accepted to heal the relational wounds of our heart, pornography will slowly lose its power.

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Mark DeJesus has served as an experienced communicator since the 1990s. As a teacher, author, transformational consultant and radio host, Mark is deeply passionate about awakening hearts and equipping people towards personal transformation. He is gifted in helping people address the core issues that become limitations to their God given identity and destiny. He is the author of numerous books and hundreds of teachings. Mark and his wife host a weekly online show called Transformed You and he writes at markdejesus.com. His articles have been featured on sites like CharismaMag.com and Patheos.com. Mark and his wife Melissa enjoy each other and their precious children Maximus and Abigail.

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  • Ken Larson

    Hello, my name is Ken Larson. I am on fire Jesus Christ he is the reason I have not looked at porn for over 10, hallelujah! The Lord found me homeless digging in dumpsters about eleven years and I have done nothing but give back by loving people on the streets, people addicted to porn, and the drug and alcohol addicted. I love sharing my story and have wrote a book that’s at the publishers now. I share my story about when I found porn in my fathers bathroom till I started working in porn shops addicted to meth. I would love to be a part of this ministry if possible. I love what you do. I speak to men about porn and being a deadbeat dad. I sponsor and mentor. I have done community forums, been a speaker in schools and churches and want to learn and grow to do more. The Holy Spirit is working a mighty mission through me now, I cant wait to see where this takes me. Hope to hear from you soon.

    • Hi Ken, appreciate your heart brother. The hearts of men need such mentoring in this area, but also in who they are as God’s men to lead from their hearts. I appreciate you being a vessel for the Kingdom. Please spread the word and make use of all the resources available on this web site. We look forward to getting to know you!