#162: Can You Be a Pastor’s Wife and Not Go Crazy? Part 1

What Hinders Her Sanity and What to do About It

Pastor's Wife

When it comes to the health and wholeness of a church body, I rarely hear much addressed when it comes to the wives of male leaders in the church. It often gets subtly pushed into the background. Most church culture assumes the leaders in a church will just figure out how to remain healthy as a family.

Sadly, for decades, many pastors, evangelists, teachers and ministry leaders have plowed the ministry territory while leaving their families in the dust. Some said, “God, I am doing your work, so you take care of my family” or everyone in the home is subconsciously told they need to just “suck it up” because Dad is doing God’s work. Yet this creates a lot of confusion in the home, because the marriage and children IS the first work of ministry. Yet this has been missed for a long time.

Is the Emotional Health of a Pastor’s Wife Being Ignored?

I’ve sat in many meetings where a particular leader has burned out or had some kind of sin issue that needed to be addressed. When discussing the path for healing, very rarely is the pastor’s spouse and children considered in the healing process. They are often neglected–left to figure it out for themselves, which rarely goes in a fruitful direction.

Has the church lost its heart for health in our marriages and families? Or was it not a priority to begin with? We want to focus today on the life of a pastor’s wife–what hinders her from living healthy and what can be done, so that she doesn’t numb her heart out and lose her mind.

Video Broadcast

In this episode, we talk about the following:

  • What our experience has been and what Melissa’s introduction to being a pastor’s wife was like.
  • What are some of the hinderances and unhealthy expectations that come to many pastor’s wives?
  • What are some steps to move in a healthier direction?



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Mark DeJesus has been equipping people in a full time capacity since 1995, serving in various roles, including, teaching people of all ages, communicating through music, authoring books, leading and mentoring. Mark's deepest love is his family; his wife Melissa, son Maximus and daughter Abigail. Mark is a teacher, author and mentor who uses many communication mediums, including the written word, a weekly radio podcast show and videos. His deepest call involves equipping people to live as overcomers. Through understanding inside out transformation, Mark's message involves getting to the root of issues that contribute to the breakdown of our relationships, our health and our day to day peace. He is passionately reaching his world with a transforming message of love, healing and freedom. Out of their own personal renewal, Mark and Melissa founded Turning Hearts Ministries, a ministry dedicated to inside out transformation. Mark also founded Transformed You, a communication platform for Mark’s teachings, writing and broadcasts that are designed to encourage people in their journey of transformation. Mark and Melissa currently live in Connecticut.

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