13 Signs of Spiritually Healthy People

I am a student of people. I love to observe patterns and behaviors that make us tick.

Over the years, I have spent time observing, studying and learning from people who are manifesting all-round health and wholeness in their life. I’m not talking about people who are effective in just one area and a “train wreck” in others.

I am referring to a lifestyle of overall stability and effectiveness regarding what is important in life.

This is what we really long for anyways–having a life that lives effectively in what is important.

Since my teen years, I have taken mental and physical notes of some of the common habits of healthy people. These habits firmly established a lifestyle of wholeness in their life.

Here are some of those observations of spiritually healthy people:

1. They know exactly who they are and live according to their identity.

Not only do they know who they are, they are secure enough to who they are not. Being someone else is not a temptation, because they see the value in who they are. No matter the roles they have in life, the money they make or the social clout, these factors do not dictate the confidence in who they are. This does not mean they do not struggle with insecurity, they just do not let it dictate their thoughts, decisions and actions.

2. They really do not care what others think.

Now let me say this: people who have to declare, “I don’t care what people think!” usually really do care what people think….a lot…so much they have to shout that they don’t.

Healthy people don’t have to declare it, you just know it when you watch their life. They’re not mean about it, healthy people just don’t spend much time caring about the applause or the accusation of others. This clears up a huge piece of real estate in their minds to focus on other things.

3. They don’t sweat the small stuff.

Most of life is cluttered with problems that usually involve people issues. Offenses, gossip and hurts are flying everywhere, yet those who are healthy know not to sweat petty issues. They let things roll off well, because they don’t take themselves too seriously. Because of this, they forgive daily and do not keep a relational log of hurts with them. This makes them so agile and baggage free in their journey. Rarely is a toxic thought about someone held for too long. They forgive and move on.

4. They know how to grieve and process through heartache and disappointment.

Healthy people don’t shove down pain or deny hurt. They confront it head on and work through it, even if it means slowing down a bit more, or taking extra time to mend some issues of the heart. They don’t approach problems as vicitms, but they recognize the imortance of ongoing heart maintainance, especially when it comes to pain.

5. They are solution focused.

Everyone can points out problems, but healthy are always looking for solutions, ways to grow and options they may not have seen before.

Because of this mindset, they release hope everywhere they go. I find these people have a great deal of maturity in that they can talk to you about your deepest problems and sympathize, but always end with a look towards hope.

6. They guard their peace.

Life is not easy, so in order to live healthy, inward peace is critical. They don’t shelter themselves, but they work hard to guard their peace and inner rest. Healthy people limit the voices that are allowed to speak into their life and give toxic people clear boundaries. Because they carry regular peace in their heart, then anger, guilt and fear rarely become driving pests.

7. They know how to interact with difficult people, without getting run over.

They may not be able to fix every situation, but they are not completely thrown off by difficult people. Healthy people see it as a challenge to grow more.

8. They practice gratitude in everything.

Being thankful has never left their heart, so no matter what situation is presented, healthy people are just happy to be alive. Gratitude becomes the atmosphere in everthing they do.

9. They practice the Word of God.

They are not overtly preachy and rarely are they lecturing people, they just mainly live out what the Bible teaches, so this draws questions and inquisitors by default. They carry fruit from practicing God’s word that shows.

10. They are worshippers.

They know how to stop everything and just engage God’s presence, while at the same time, live with a constant awareness of God’s loving presence. This influences and affects everything they think and do. Prayer is a love, not a chore.

11. They have established disciplines that flow from their values.

They not only know what is important, their daily routine shows what is important. They do not just follow their ebb and flows of emotions. Whole people truly know how to lead their own hearts and minds, and live accordingly. Their disciplines are not there as rigorous rules, but as habits to feed and cultivate the heart.

12. They care for their temple.

They don’t obsess about their eating and exercise, but they make sure to take care of their body in every way. They make time to invest in weekly exercise and activity, while knowing that unhealthy foods will only interfere with their effectiveness in life.

13. They practice alone time.

They know how to sit alone and get refreshed. They value being with others, but see the importance of being alone with God and alone with themselves, so as to recharge, pray, meditate and gain perspective.

Question: What do you find to be a key sign of a healthy spiritual life? 

 

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Mark DeJesus has been equipping people in a full time capacity since 1995, serving in various roles, including, teaching people of all ages, communicating through music, authoring books, leading and mentoring. Mark's deepest love is his family; his wife Melissa, son Maximus and daughter Abigail. Mark is a teacher, author and mentor who uses many communication mediums, including the written word, a weekly radio podcast show and videos. His deepest call involves equipping people to live as overcomers. Through understanding inside out transformation, Mark's message involves getting to the root of issues that contribute to the breakdown of our relationships, our health and our day to day peace. He is passionately reaching his world with a transforming message of love, healing and freedom. Out of their own personal renewal, Mark and Melissa founded Turning Hearts Ministries, a ministry dedicated to inside out transformation. Mark also founded Transformed You, a communication platform for Mark’s teachings, writing and broadcasts that are designed to encourage people in their journey of transformation. Mark and Melissa currently live in Connecticut.

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  • Mark, this is so spot on, loved reading it and aspire to be healthy in the way you pointed out. Such a great read.

    • Thanks Davide! You are an example of hunger and growth in all these areas!

  • Carol Rodd

    I find that when I am the healthiest is when i am obedient to God and other relationships, which means my integrity is in intact and looking and open for any growth that is available.
    Staying alert for what is toxic and what isn’t.
    This article is great as it is making areas that i need to work on to maintain my integrity.

    • Carol! Way to be an overcomer! Your teachability and heart to learn is awesome and inspiring!

  • Carol Rodd

    Psalm 36 v 1-2 Vindicate me, o LORD, For i have walked in my integrity. I have also trusted in the LORD, i shall not slip. Examine me, O LORD,and prove me; Try my mind and my heart.

  • Carol Rodd

    I love this post! I see it as a guide…a template….a goal for life to follow and learn about ourselves and others. To love, forgive and be. Mark which is in the area of our diaphragm….soul or spirit? Great teaching last night! We are not victims! When there’s emphasis we speak from our diaphragm! When we are victims or whinnying we speak from high in the throat…… . . .

    • Amen!
      What a joy it was to teach that course! Thanks for being hungry and teachable.

  • JL3

    Mark, I’ve really enjoyed reading many of your articles, because they are a word in due season, but I’m going to have to make a pit stop on this very good article and stay here for a while. I’m printing it and putting it on the wall because in many of the thirteen points you have referenced, I’ve seen God radically change me into a spiritually healthy person and I’m so thankful. Life is sweeter because of what the Lord has done. In some areas, I need some more tweaking and healing and renewal of the mind, so I’m very pleased to have found this article today to use as a guideline in walking it out. I’m actually absolutely speechless after reading this article today and that is a rare thing for me! Such gratitude for God today that words cannot express it. Feeling deeply loved by Father God (which is what I like to call Him. I like formal names. It feels respectful and honoring to me.) JL3

  • JL3

    Mark’s Question: What do you find to be a key sign of a healthy spiritual life?

    A few things that are the “fruit” of a healthy spiritual life were unexpected to me when I started this journey, but something that I began to see more of as I grew into this lifestyle of a healthy spiritual life.
    1. An increased ability to hear from the Lord directly.
    It may amaze people, but Holy Spirit has a voice and personality. He talks to you! He quickens you to scripture when you ask a question. He “highlights” something in your natural world or through your senses (whether in the seen or unseen) to understand what He is saying to you. He gives you dreams and visions to speak to you. Life becomes less of a mystery and more like living in the flow of a river. This is a fruit of becoming a more healthy spiritual person, and it is my personal experience, but also the experience of many others as well.
    2. You develop courage to come boldly to God with your petitions. Does a young child resist asking mom and dad what they want? No, they don’t! As you get the toxic junk out of your soul, you create room for a living relationship with your Father. Now I’m still learning the difference between Father God, Jesus, and Holy Spirit, but I’m growing in this. No doubt though, courage to come boldly to God is the fruit of becoming healthier spiritually
    3. You become so passionately in love with Jesus, that in the same way your thoughts were once stolen in obsessive thinking, you make a transition to thinking about Jesus and His Good News. What is He saying to you today? What is He saying about others? What is on the path of life for today?
    4. A life of prayer and worship becomes a standard to daily living and you DON’T just wait until Sunday morning church to engage in this lifestyle. It becomes the atmosphere in your home. It becomes the air you breathe everyday – prayer and worship.
    I’ll stop there, because I could go on and on, but why are these things true? Because the more healthier you become, then the more room you make for intimacy with Jesus. Think about being in a room filled with 100 obnoxious, talking people. Here you are in this room, trying to talk with just one person. How distracting, right? When you do the work of healing and restoration and submitting to the process, then that is like getting those 99 extra people out of the room so you can give you undivided attention to the one who remains. That is the beauty of the work of healing and restoration. Getting the 99 other people out of the room is a picture of the fruit of being healthy spiritually. It is soooooo worth it! When you reap the rewards, then all the pain and suffering you went through will be nothing compared to the joy, the pure joy of knowing Him in daily communion! Amen to all who believe and read this! JL3