#123: Overcoming Our Negative Patterns [Podcast]

For those who enter seasons of becoming less negative, they often hit immediately backlash and resistance. This is because our brains are so deeply trained to become negatively focused. It becomes a trained mechanism in our biology to protect ourselves. Many people keep negativity close by because they want to remain realistic about life. Others want to keep themselves from ever being disappointed. Many are just so used to a negatively based world, they don’t know how to remain positive or hope-filled.

In this episode, we want to unravel the difficulties in living negativity-free and what we can do to break the patterns we fall into.

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Overcoming Our Negative Patterns

Mark: Okay, so for those who are entering the seasons of becoming less negative, like you want to break free in these areas, and maybe you’re doing the negativity fast, the first thing you realize is you immediately hit backlash and resistance. I want you to understand, there’s a spiritual reason for that. Yes, we know there’s an enemy that comes to steal, kill, and destroy. We know that there’s a war going on.

At a very soul and even physiological level, our brains have become conditioned to having a negative focus. It’s a survival mechanism that our body becomes trained in, our biology gives into, to protect ourselves a lot of times. We give into this, “I need to protect myself,” and it becomes deadly. It becomes a negative thing in our life. It doesn’t help us in the long term, but many people keep negativity close.

Why Do We Remain Negative?

Let’s just be honest. We keep it close because we want to remain “realistic” about our life. I don’t want to get too far off into la-la land. I don’t want to get too far off into somewhere where I’m delusional about my life, so I’m going to be realistic. Some people take pride. I’m the realistic one in the room. I’ve felt that way about myself at times. Others just want to keep themselves from ever being disappointed. We’ve talked about that a lot. It’s like, “I don’t want to get my hopes up.” Why? Because there’s pain if I raise up to this hope level and then boom, come crashing down.

A lot of people are just used to being negative all the time. They don’t know how to remain hope-filled. They don’t know how to walk into a room and have a positive sense about themselves and their life. I think one of the things that I noticed when we were pastoring is this was a deeply programmed thing in people’s lives. They would enter in. We would have a meeting, a leadership meeting or team meeting, or even just a church service. Immediately people walk into the room and they are carrying just a heaviness and a negativity.

That showed that they don’t know how to manage their state. They don’t know how to manage themselves and self-regulate to come into a room and bring expectation. Therefore, most meetings and gatherings at a lot of churches are pulling people out of their hopeless, depressed state, and we’re not getting anywhere. We’re just trying to get people back to default setting, get you back to being okay with God and your life.

What Do We Do to Break Our Negative Patterns?

In this episode, maybe what we can do is get to, at some point, is how to break these negative patterns. They become conditioned programming, these ruts that we fall into. Maybe they come up in conversation where someone tries to talk to you about something you’re doing that’s hurting them, and your reaction is, “Well, I guess I never do anything right” or maybe it’s you turn the news on, and you just go there. Maybe a political argument comes up. You go over to your family’s house. I think that that’s where I’d like to get to at the end of this. What are some of your thoughts as far as how this affects or how it pans out? What’s the first thing that comes to your mind?

Melissa: I think really the example that you just gave on how people just go into the negative automatically, whether you’re trying to talk to them about something or even, “Hey, oh, it’s nice out today.” “Well, it’s going to rain tomorrow.”

Mark: Yeah, I find that a lot.

Melissa: Did you see the news?

The hurricane could be coming. That kind of stuff where they can’t just join you in conversation to talk about … It doesn’t even have to be super positive, but just have a normal, as we like to say volleying, conversation where you’re engaging somebody, not just going into the rut and pit of hell every time you have a conversation with them. I have to say, the majority of people that I talk to, that is what happens. If I connect with a mom at school, it is literally down.

Mark: Right. Everything that’s going wrong, everything that you don’t like.

Melissa: This is happening with my kid. It’s like that focus is so intense right now in the world of everything that’s going bad.

Mark: Yeah.

Melissa: Everything that’s going bad. Then you have the people like you’re saying that just completely ignore. They completely … We see both extremes going on, I think, in a lot of ways, but the majority is just heavy, [ugh 00:04:30].

The Culture of Negativity

Mark: I actually think there’s more of the heavy negative than there are the super, overly positive without any acknowledgment of pain. I’m seeing less and less of that. In fact, I’m seeing people that were that. It’s like they’re crumbling. Their countenance is changing. I’m like, “Whoa, wow.” I’m seeing the effect of where their hyper-positivity without connecting to pain, you see how that can happen, is wearing away. The paint’s rusted.

I think that what we need to realize is … Okay, I’m imagining in the situation you’re talking about, going to a group of people, and the talk was negative. “Hey, you know, wow, the sun’s really shining today.” “Yeah, it’s so hot. I’m sick of the heat.” Where you go, “Oh man, look at the snow, how beautiful it is.” “Snow again.” Whatever kind of things that we fall into.

Being Negative is Easy

If you tell your brain, “Okay, I want to think of something hopeful or positive,” it’s like you’re going argh, whereas the negative ones are just so easy. It’s just so much easier. It’s like lazy living. I think that we have to be intentional. That’s why the negativity fast is like, “Okay, for 30 days, I’m going to exercise the hope muscle in my life. I’m going to exercise …” I don’t like saying the positivity because that sometimes creates a picture that I don’t want to create.

Balancing Positivity with Not Ignoring Issues

Melissa: Right, because we don’t want people ignoring their issues. I think too maybe we can talk about that at the end of this, on what that looks like to balance that out, because there are real things that, even as you’re trying to go through 30 days of negativity, it doesn’t mean, “Ooh, ignore, ignore, ignore anything and everything.” That’s not what we’re talking about. We can talk about that after. All right. Let’s start to break down. How can we break down really breaking, break down, breaking, our negative patterns?

Identifying Our Negative Hooks

Mark: I think the first thing we have to do, if we’ve made the decision we want to change, is we have to identify our hooks. Everybody has their hooks that we fall into, because the hooks are certain references. They’re a certain person you talk to, certain things that you do. We all have them throughout the day. What do you turn on in the morning? The television. What do you tune to? There’s usually certain things in TV that hook you into those patterns. What you listen to the car, who you talk to. Once you get in these ruts, you create all these certain hooks that you hang your mental focus on throughout the day, so we’ve got to identify them. Those areas have to be renewed.

Self-Awareness

The only way you can do this though is self-awareness. You need self-awareness. We talk about this all the time. You need to be self-aware of where you fall into those traps, because every thought that you engage in those hooks, in those moments, those triggers, is creating a thought that either empowers you or disempowers you. We have them everywhere. What are some examples that come to your mind? What’s an example that comes to your mind of something that is a hook for you that creates a disempowering thought?

Inundated with News

Melissa: When I see something bad happening to children, so then that spirals me. Something’s going to happen to our kids.

Mark: Yeah, and I think that, in a lot of ways, news, I don’t know that we should be bombarded with that much news, to be honest, because a thought of a child on the other side of the planet being abused or hurt or something, or a thousand miles away or something like that, people say, “Well, you can pray.” That’s true, but I could pray for those kind of situations anyway. Most people don’t pray. What they do is they just allow it to get them stirred up about all the bad that’s happening in the world.

Melissa: Very true. Mm-hmm.

Mark: A way that you can change the hook is every time I hear about a kid that’s being hurt, I’m going to pray and intercede specifically for that family, and there are certain things I’m going to do differently.

Melissa: Right. I think the typical pattern, especially I think this is really tough on moms, “The world is so bad. I want to just protect my children,” because that’s the thing that’s hard is people go, “Well, that’s real out there.”

Mark: It’s real.

Melissa: That’s a real thing. Right.

Mark: It’s real, but we have to recognize too, we can’t fill ourselves with information about situations we can’t really do a whole lot about. I know people say, “Well, we can pray.” Yes, but there comes a limit to our human capacity of what we’re meant to take in.

I don’t think God designed me to know the moment something happens, I have a notification of it, immediate recognition that that’s happening in the world. I think that’s where technology works against us, where you’re just not meant … You’re meant to know what’s going on in your home, in your neighborhood, down the street. That’s enough to fill your psychological tank, as far as what you’re made to handle.

Melissa: That’s very true.

Detoxing News

Mark: I think that I’ve done detoxes of news, where I’m like, “I’m not going to watch news for a while,” and I didn’t miss a thing. I was like, “You know, if I need an alert, you tell me.”

Melissa: Because I get them all.

Mark: You and I are on different spectrums completely on this.

Melissa: Listen, I like the 411 people. Tell me what’s going on.

Mark: Yeah, so I’m like, “If the earth is blowing up, my wife’ll notify me or somebody will.”

Melissa: Don’t worry. I got us covered.

Mark: I think that, but that really helped me. I’d like you to try that at some point. I know it’ll be like getting off of …

Melissa: Drugs

Mark: Getting off of Coke or getting off of sugar or getting off of cigarettes for you.

Melissa: Yeah, that’s another problem, my sugar. Yeah, because I do like to know. Then it’s like, okay, I will say this morning I saw on the news there, and it’s so sad, a little girl went to school, 7 year old girl, told her bus driver, “I couldn’t wake up my parents.” Now it’s all over the news, these 2 parents overdosed on heroin, and the 7 year old clearly is used to getting up and getting herself ready to go to school. I could have sobbed all morning over that. There is a part of me when you are a human being that you are aching for humanity, and aching for the destruction of this little girl. There was other kids in the home too.

The problem is is now this is like the fourth story I’ve seen of this in the past 3 weeks, and I’m not exaggerating that. Then what happens is I can feel the weight of it on myself, but I’m not really doing anything about it. I’m just kind of crying, weeping over it, feeling. What happens is then I start to feel like the world’s just so evil. It’s not that I’m consciously maybe even thinking we’re doomed, but I can feel that weight and heaviness coming over me of everybody’s horrible, the world’s a mess.

Mark: It steals your hope.

Melissa: Yeah, because now I’m agonizing over this child that I don’t even know. Really the goal is the community needs to rally, like you’re saying. Understand what’s going on in your community. That’s where you need to keep your focus, because it can get out of control when you start to look everywhere else too.

Focusing on What We Can Influence

Mark: I think that it takes … I’m going to give my 10 cents. It takes our eyes sometimes too off of dealing with the problems that we can control or be involved in, because people … It’s like we say, “Well, I’m going to go help starving children in Haiti.” It’s like, “But you don’t even do that here.”

Melissa: Here. Correct.

Mark: Or people say, “I’m going to go win the youth of America,” but you won’t help out in your own youth group. It’s like, let me invest, if I’m going to do something about the negativity, let me … I think one of the patterns that we could break is let’s start doing things about stuff that we are responsible for, and we can influence change directly right around us. Everybody has their sphere of influence, even if it’s just in their own quarters of their home. Make changes and adjustments there.

Melissa: Yeah. I think that’s one of the biggest things that I would say, especially even when we’re dealing with people and ministering to them and helping them. There’s a big cry in the church. People want to, “I want to have a healing center,” and, “I want to minister to people,” and I want to that. Meanwhile, they have massively broken homes. I mean, massively broken. Sometimes you sit there and you’re thinking there’s a focus here of healing what’s going on in you and healing. I love that passion to heal others, but we have to see what’s in front of us too. That’s, I think, a real big shift that we need to have, but anyway, I could go off on my soapbox on that too.

Interrupting Your Negative Patterns

Mark: Yeah, so I think going back to the application of this is identify the hooks in your day that create reinforcement to negativity. Doing a negativity fast helps you to identify them, things you watch, things you read, people you talk to, certain interactions, scenarios that keep you in those places. You have to be honest about them, and then start interrupting those patterns. The best way you can interrupt a pattern, I find, is with my words. That’s one of the quickest ways I can interrupt a pattern, where I’m going to now with my words say something that moves me into a direction of hope, moves me into a direction of solutions, moves me into a direction of pointing out gratitude, focusing on what’s good in every situation. There’s not a cut and dry thing that you do, we’ll just say this in every situation. No, no, no. Don’t just say, “Praise the Lord. Bless God.” We become robotic. Now you need to become relational beings where …

Melissa: Loving.

Creating a New Pattern

Mark: … in certain situations, you develop and create a new pattern. Maybe the pattern is, “I go and I talk with this person, and the first thing we do is we get negative.” It’s like, “Okay, I’m going to be intentional.” I’m going to maybe let that person know, “Hey, I want to make some changes, and I want to be accountable for this. I would like us to do this together. What do you think?” Then start stirring up new triggers that become good hooks for good conversation in your life. I find there’s 2 things I always do that if I’m getting into a disempowered, negative, hopeless place that I change my language and I change my physiology. I get up. I move.

Melissa: You do. Mm-hmm (affirmative).

Create a New Physical Posture

Mark: I change posture. There’s this new thing I’ve been trying where sometimes I’ll just start … If I find myself in a negative thought and I keep spiraling in it, I just out loud start singing a song that’s joyful, just to snap me out of it, because I want to create a different pathway. I find we have to interrupt those negative hooks, jump in front of them, jar them. We have jar out of them. Breaking negative patterns is not going to be like this gradual thing. It’s like when people say, “Well, I’m going to kind of get off sugar and wean myself off.” No, you can’t. You got to go hardcore and go through the withdrawals in order for it to happen. You got to do the same thing here. I got to, like, hardcore.

Maybe it’s getting more physically active, because it produces endorphins. It helps us become in a more solution-based state of mind. I think the biggest thing that helps us, a very practical way to break your patterns, is begin to develop a new focus in your day. Maybe you’re so negative because you need to get a life. You need to go out there and have a focus and a cause or something that you’re investing in on a daily life. When you’re busy about doing something that’s providing solutions or an answer to something, or to help people, or to just even bless a business or your family, when you’re busy about that, it gives you less room to sit in the negative.

We Need to Take Action!

Melissa: Yeah. You know what’s so funny is that as you’re talking, I can even feel it in myself. I feel like there is such a war over taking action, because everything that you’re spitting out, and I want people to listen to this, everything you’re spitting out is great nuggets. It’s so true. It’s what we need to implement. It’s what we need to do to change. At the end of the day, people, you have to take action.

Mark: That’s right.

Melissa: I think that this is a massive problem in the church.

Mark: That’s right.

Melissa: We want God to do it for us.

Mark: Correct. He’s out there and he hasn’t …

Melissa: We have to settle this.

Mark: He’s out there. He hasn’t done it yet, so I’m just waiting on him. Therefore, I’m justified in the state that I’m in. Listen, folks, I could solve thousands of people out there who need personal help, millions of people out there, with just this statement, “Take responsibility for your inner life.”

Melissa: Yeah. There is actually things you’re going to have to do to go through pain.

Mark: That’s right.

Being Equipped for Pain

Melissa: It’s interesting. I hadn’t even had a chance to share this with you yet, but we are aware of this in our home and there are strategic things that we do with our kids where we are prepping them for the pain of life and things they have to go through.

This morning was a teaching moment for me, because Abby said to me, “Mommy, my heel hurts. My heel hurts. It’s right in my foot.” I said, “Okay, well, what happened?” “Everything I do this,” so she showed me. I said, “Well, when did it start?” She said, “Well, after dance.” They’re being taught new things in dance. I said, “Well, your foot is being moved in a different way now, and you’re learning different things. Your muscle in your foot is going to have to learn,” so I’m thinking, okay. My light bulb immediately went off. Then her and I started this conversation on working through pain.

Mark: Wow, that’s good.

Melissa: She’s going to be 6 years old in a month, that I had an opportunity to have with my kid, because I want to help her, even at her young age, know you’re going to have to go through pain to grow. You’re going to have to go through pain. There’s action that you’re going to have to keep at this.

Mark: That’s right. That’s right.

Melissa: I told her, “The more you keep at it, the pain will go away, but you’re going to have pain for a little bit, because you’re learning this.”

Mark: That’s right

Melissa: She got excited. At first, she went, “Oh, no, I don’t want to be in pain.” I said, “No, honey, that’s life. These are the things you’re going to have to do, and it’s a good thing.” “Oh, so like if I was …” I said, “If you’re going to throw a ball, your arm might hurt.” We went through these all.

Mark: Right. That’s good. That’s really good.

Melissa: … to teach. I think that we just haven’t been taught this.

Mark: That’s right.

We’re Waiting on God to Do Something

Melissa: I want you to get back to your points on what we need to do to break these patterns, but I think that, as you’re talking, it really just was burning inside of me. I feel like this is the war over people. You’re going to have to take steps. You’re going to have to do something.

As a church body, we’ve become so lazy. I think sometimes the prophetic, and I love the prophetic and it’s what we need in the church and I’m not going to get into that, but there’s been the part of it that’s been hurtful, because people have taken those words and they’ve gone, “God’s going to play this out for me.” That word means, which is powerful and there’s destiny over your life, and there’s all those things that we need to grab on to that, but the mistake came where I’m going to sit here and do nothing and let him just open the doors.

Mark: That’s right.

Melissa: We’ve seen years of people staying stagnant because they just waited and stood idle. We need to stop being idle. We need to know that we are going to have to do these things. We’re going to have to be self-aware and go, “Oh my gosh, I am a negative person, and I am engaging this constantly. I’m doing this. I’m doing that.” We need to start taking action and becoming aware of what we’re doing.

Mark: That’s right. I’ve …

Melissa: Sorry. I just felt the need to …

Mark: Don’t ever apologize. One of the strongest things I’ve felt from God in my greatest frustration of negativity is this thought that comes back to me that I felt was from him, “Mark, what are you going to do about it?” Let’s break down that thought. Mark, what are you going to do about it?

Melissa: Right. About it. Right.

Growing in Any Situation

Mark: That causes me now to be very responsible and to take more action. Listen, if you can get into a place where nothing around you that is problematic owns you, you can now look at those situations with creative answers and solutions to either bring change or to either have areas that need to be enhanced or grown or whatever it is.

That’s been literally the theme that God’s been working in my life in the past 10 years, because when we first got married and set out, we were like, “This is where we’re headed. Then we hit these and this.”

Whenever you step out into doing new things in ministry or business, or you’re an entrepreneur, life we think is like this, and really it’s like this, up and down, and left and right. Then you’re like, “Oh my goodness, I should give up and quit. What am I even thinking and doing? Where is everybody?” Really learning to grow in the midst of those areas and God’s like, “I’m with you in this, but I need you to learn at a higher level things you don’t know yet. I want you to grow in them.”

Positioning Yourself to Never Be Defeated

If we’re tenacious in our growing heart, we can never be totally taken out. We’re never defeated. No matter what circumstances do or change or not change, we can grow. There’s people right now, they’re in a marriage that’s awful, and they need to make a decision. They’re wanting God to do it for them. Here’s what I tell them. I said, “I want you to begin applying this, this, and this. If you end up staying in the marriage, or you end up saying, ‘You know what, I got to get out of this,’ either way, you still grow. If you want the decision made for you, or if you’re just waiting for that other person to grow for your life to get better, you’re in for a real disappointment,” or you’re in a church that’s dysfunctional or abusive, or you’re in a relationship or a job, and you’re sitting there waiting for God to do something.

Melissa: Or for the other person to just get it and wake up.

Make a Decision

Mark: Correct. You have to begin to make a decision. I’m going to grow right now. Then whether I leave, do something new, or whether I stay, or whatever it is, I’m going to grow to the highest potential possible. If you take that attitude, disappointment has less of a power over you, because your response to situations is, “Okay, how can I learn? How can I grow?” If you love learning, you can grow in any circumstance. I think a negativity fast starts forcing people to, A, take responsibility, and B, start looking for solutions of, “Okay, what can I do today to take action, take steps of faith, and begin to invest in who God says I am, and be a better light, and be whatever it is?” You’re always going to soar.

Melissa: That’s so true.

Making the Changes to Your Emotional State

Mark: I think that I harness everything that I have in my ability to be able to do, and that is how I talk out loud, my self-talk that’s going on, my physiology and how I maintain that, even my nutrition, because Christians somehow we exit that out. Nutrition’s huge. I can change someone’s state by just feeding them certain foods that make them toxic and groggy. They’re now in an altered state of consciousness. I can do the same thing that many drugs people take, just give them a certain food, and put them in a whole different disempowered state. Those things that I utilize, why? Because I’m managing the temple that I have been given for optimum potential for my day, so that I can be a solution-oriented state. We don’t know how to do that. A negativity fast will help force you to do that.

Changing Your Story

Here’s the biggest thing a negativity fast does, and I pray everyone comes out of it with this, is it changes your story. Everybody has a story they’re living by.

Melissa: That’s really good. Yeah.

Mark: It is the story of where you’ve been, where you are, and where you’re going. Most people have a very disempowering, defeating, hopeless story that they live by with language such as, “Things just don’t work out for me. God just left me hanging. People are just jerks. Men are just this. Women are just …”

Melissa: I’m a victim to this. I’m a victim to my husband. I’m a victim to my job. Right.

Mark: Correct. You can hear the bad story by just having a discussion with someone about their life. They tell you, and they tell you, and they tell you. One of the first things that you have to start changing is I have to look at my story, and that story has to be able to be shifted and to be changed into that, “No, I’m going to create a new narrative based on what God says about …” People go, “Well, you don’t know my circumstances.”

No matter how bad anyone’s circumstance is, we could list out millions of people in history that have had worse, darker. You think this time is dark? How about the Dark Ages? You know what I mean? There’s hardly any record of anything happening. We live in a time where at least there’s things available to us, there’s understandings available that weren’t even available then, that we can apply as we’re learning to grow in God. Changing my story, because if I change my story, I’m changing my focus. If I’m changing my focus, I’m changing what I’m looking for, because what you look for is what you get. I did a video the other day on this…

Changing Your Focus

Melissa: That’s very true

Mark: I did a video the other day …

Melissa: That’s so good.

Mark: … that remember when you and I were looking for … We were looking to replace our car that we got into an accident last year.

Melissa: Mm-hmm (affirmative).

Mark: We had to replace the car. We were looking at certain vehicles. It seemed like the majority of the cars on the road were those vehicles. It was like, “Oh my gosh, they’re everywhere.” It’s like, if somebody wants, they want to buy a Mustang, it’s like everywhere they go, they see Mustangs everywhere. Why? Because that’s what your mind is on. Whatever your grid creates of your stories, what you focus on, and then that’s what you’re going to …

Melissa: Attract, yeah.

Mark: It’s really what you’re going to notice more. Your brain is going to draw attention to that, and you’re going to draw that in into your life. Like you said, attract. You’re going to bring that in. People say, “I’m tired of being alone. I want a relationship.” I tell them, “Okay, I want you to write down everything you want that person to be. Create this real, just mack daddy list of who this guy or this beauty queen list of who you want this woman to be.”

Then here’s the tough part. Question number 2, what’s the kind of person you need to become to attract that kind of person? Then they get into, “Well, I’m not good enough, all this unworthiness, all this stuff. It just pushes away. “Fine. Forget it. I’m not …” It’s addressing what’s really going on in their life. They don’t have a good image of themselves.

Melissa: And no one wants to do work.

Mark: Right.

Melissa: Sorry, it’s true. No one does.

Taking Responsibility for Your Life

Mark: Because in order to make those changes, you have to take responsibility and you have to do the work. I don’t care. I don’t care what your disease is, what your mental illness label is. I don’t care what your family situation is.

Melissa: Husband is, whatever, right.

Mark: You can take responsibility to enhance those areas.

Melissa: To change anything, right.

Mark: That’s right. That’s right. The moment you disagree with that is the moment you disempower what God’s given you to overcome.

Melissa: That’s good.

Managing Your Mood

Mark: I’m very big on, and I’m going to develop entire teachings on this, because this is going to be next level stuff. I’ve been doing a lot of teaching on foundational stuff. There’s a lot of next level stuff I want to get into. One of the biggest things I see problematic is people don’t know how to manage their mood. We let our mood be managed by whatever the day brings us.

Melissa: Can I get a Amen for that one?

Mark: It’s like, I got up on the wrong side of the bed, or I’m in my monthly cycle, or I’m pre-menstrual. I just got all the ladies upset.

Melissa: No, that’s true.

Mark: Or my boss. Guys go into my boss and my job. You don’t understand how. That determines our state. There’s been some of these rough chapters I’ve had to go through. You’ve watched me, where I’m having to learn, “Okay, how do I manage my state in the most disempowering environments? How can I manage me inside so that those things don’t overtake me,” because the more you can do that, the more influential you can become, the less takes you out.

Mark: Let that out. Anyways, I think that takeaway is negativity fasts can help me manage and better control the state that I’m in on a daily basis. It’s like now I’m managing my input differently, and I’m also managing my output differently, to be hope and faith-based and love-based. You and I are going through this negativity fast. We’re not sitting around at the table going, “Life is so great. This is so nice.”

Melissa: No, we’re not.

Mark: That’s not what’s happening.

Not Denial, But Intentionality

Melissa: We’re not ignoring life issues, right.

Mark: We’re being more intentional now in our conversation about moving towards, “Okay, all right. That was negative. Let’s adjust that. How can we reframe this situation to be empowered?”

Melissa: Or a solution, right.

Mark: Because negativity, what it does it is it strips you of being empowered.

Melissa: Right. You have nothing when everything is hopeless. Right.

Mark: Right. That’s what the victim spirit does is, “I’ve done everything. I’ve done everything, and there’s nothing else to do.” People say that. People say, “I’ve done everything.” If you’ve done everything, then you found the solutions. You haven’t, so you haven’t done everything.

Melissa: Right. You haven’t. Right.

Mark: You probably haven’t done everything consistently long enough. You did something for 2 days, and then you said it didn’t work.

Melissa: Forget it. Forget it.

Mark: Haven’t we all said that? Anyways, any final thoughts?

Melissa: No. I think that we have solved the problems of negativity today.

Mark: I think we have too.

Melissa: I think we have.

Negativity Fast

Mark: Go to our website. Check it out. I’ll put it in the show notes when we post this episode online, but you can go to markdejesus.com. There is a box right there now. I’m just compiling an army of people that want to do a negativity fast. We look forward to seeing the benefits it’s going to have for your life. Send us your questions, your comments, your feedback on what’s working, what’s not working, or maybe you need some personal help.

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Mark DeJesus has been equipping people in a full time capacity since 1995, serving in various roles, including, teaching people of all ages, communicating through music, authoring books, leading and mentoring. Mark's deepest love is his family; his wife Melissa, son Maximus and daughter Abigail. Mark is a teacher, author and mentor who uses many communication mediums, including the written word, a weekly radio podcast show and videos. His deepest call involves equipping people to live as overcomers. Through understanding inside out transformation, Mark's message involves getting to the root of issues that contribute to the breakdown of our relationships, our health and our day to day peace. He is passionately reaching his world with a transforming message of love, healing and freedom. Out of their own personal renewal, Mark and Melissa founded Turning Hearts Ministries, a ministry dedicated to inside out transformation. Mark also founded Transformed You, a communication platform for Mark’s teachings, writing and broadcasts that are designed to encourage people in their journey of transformation. Mark and Melissa currently live in Connecticut.

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