What Keeps People from Experiencing Intimate Relationships?
We are all dying to connect with others, but at the same time we avoid intimacy like a plague. It is dysfunctional when we read it on paper, but unfortunately it is how we live. What keeps us in this perpetual hide and seek from God and each other? We seek for intimacy, but avoid every time it arrives! We cry that we don’t have it, but we act goofy when opportunity for intimacy shows itself. What drives all this relational insanity?
The answer is one word. Shame.
Shame has been in play ever since Adam and Eve. The moment sin entered the planet, shame came along to push us away from the very thing we needed in our brokenness—intimacy. Whenever we feel flawed, the enemy trains us to withdraw in shame, keeping us from feeling safe in relationship. Yet loving relationship is the very thing we need in order to be set free from our bondage.
In the front lines of the enemy’s work is the assault of shame. Shame blocks a person from ever dealing with pain, vulnerability and weakness. This is why millions of people avoid getting help. They rarely talk about deeper issues until things are so bad, life is falling apart. Shame keeps them in a prison of isolation, so the unloving issues of the heart can’t be healed in the love of God.
Mark defines shame as an accusing spirit that works with fear and rejection to keep you locked in a prison of darkness over issues that need to be healed and cleansed in a safe environment.
Listen in as we talk about what shame does and how to break free!
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