#041: Does Forgiving Mean Forgetting? [Podcast]

Today’s episode focuses on a question that was sent into us regarding brokenness and forgiveness.

Jesus Martinez from East Hartford, Connecticut asks:

What’s the difference between a broken heart and a soul wound? Or are they both the same ? Also, what does it really mean to say I can forgive but not forget? Can we truly forgive someone if we can’t forget what’s been done?

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Question: After listening, what questions do you have regarding dealing with brokenness and walking through forgiveness?


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Mark DeJesus has been equipping people in a full time capacity since 1995, serving in various roles, including, teaching people of all ages, communicating through music, authoring books, leading and mentoring. Mark's deepest love is his family; his wife Melissa, son Maximus and daughter Abigail. Mark is a teacher, author and mentor who uses many communication mediums, including the written word, a weekly radio podcast show and videos. His deepest call involves equipping people to live as overcomers. Through understanding inside out transformation, Mark's message involves getting to the root of issues that contribute to the breakdown of our relationships, our health and our day to day peace. He is passionately reaching his world with a transforming message of love, healing and freedom. Out of their own personal renewal, Mark and Melissa founded Turning Hearts Ministries, a ministry dedicated to inside out transformation. Mark also founded Transformed You, a communication platform for Mark’s teachings, writing and broadcasts that are designed to encourage people in their journey of transformation. Mark and Melissa currently live in Connecticut.

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  • Stan Doll

    Pastor Mark & Pastor Melissa,

    This was an OUTSTANDING episode! The content really brought me back to my own journey of learning to forgive a few key people in my life that had deeply wounded me. It was not an easy journey but as I “walked out” and through the process, it launched me into a place of freedom that I didn’t know was possible. It was the beginning step to a deep inner cleansing that allowed me to enter into true joy for the first time. I should note, it continues to be a process, not just new offenses or new wounds, but occasionally having to guard my heart from allowing those old violations to resurface.

    I now pastor at a church in Southern California and have discovered that many of the people I am in relationship with have no clue how to enter into this process, nor are they even open to the thought that they may have lack of forgiveness rotting within them. I can clearly see the battle ground for them because it oozes out in their relationships, their jobs and their choices and there is often times massive destruction all around them. When I ask about issues of forgiveness in their lives, their responses gloss over the traumas of the past and they refuse to look at it. Honestly, it’s frustrating to have such a simple Scriptural truth so violently distorted and viewed as overly complicated within the body of believers.

    Although entering into true, life changing forgiveness is often scary, time consuming and emotionally charged, once entered into, it is not as painful as the avoidance. I was terrified to start the process (thank God I had your teachings to encourage me), but once I took that first step, I realized there was no condemnation from God and the Holy Spirit was so gentle with me. His tenderness was so radical and it encouraged me to keep going deeper in the process. Looking back, I thought I was going to have to give something up that had become part of me and part of my identity. I had no clue that in reality, I didn’t loose anything, rather I gained more than I ever could have hoped for.

    Thank you again for this brilliant episode! The Doll’s love you guys!

    • Stan you are right on! So honored to see the light that is shining on you in the West Coast. Your story of freedom and transformation is a beacon of light to everyone you encounter. So encouraged to see the power of forgiveness begin to unleash. Go God!