#034: How to Deal with People Who Drive You Crazy [Podcast]

Do you have people in your life that drive you crazy?

What area is the hardest for you? Church, family, school, work, neighborhood . . all of them?

Today we are going to relate to King David, who had people in and around him who drove him crazy. And he shared it in Scripture.

Psalms 139:19-24 NKJV

19 Oh, that You would slay the wicked, O God!

Depart from me, therefore, you bloodthirsty men.

20 For they speak against You wickedly;

Your enemies take Your name in vain.

21 Do I not hate them, O Lord, who hate You?

And do I not loathe those who rise up against You?

22 I hate them with perfect hatred;

I count them my enemies.

Matthew 5:38-48 NKJV

38 “ You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth. ’

39 But I tell you not to resist an evil person. But whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other to him also.

40 If anyone wants to sue you and take away your tunic, let him have your cloak also.

41 And whoever compels you to go one mile, go with him two.

42 Give to him who asks you, and from him who wants to borrow from you do not turn away.

43 “ You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy. ’

44 But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you,

45 that you may be sons of your Father in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust.

46 For if you love those who love you, what reward have you? Do not even the tax collectors do the same?

47 And if you greet your brethren only, what do you do more than others? Do not even the tax collectors do so?

48 Therefore you shall be perfect, just as your Father in heaven is perfect.

Psalm 139: 23-24

23 Search me, O God, and know my heart;

Try me, and know my anxieties;

24 And see if there is any wicked way in me,

And lead me in the way everlasting.

Questions to Ask About People Who Drive You Crazy:

  • Do I have the same issue?
  • What needs to grow in me?


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Mark DeJesus has been equipping people in a full time capacity since 1995, serving in various roles, including, teaching people of all ages, communicating through music, authoring books, leading and mentoring. Mark's deepest love is his family; his wife Melissa, son Maximus and daughter Abigail. Mark is a teacher, author and mentor who uses many communication mediums, including the written word, a weekly radio podcast show and videos. His deepest call involves equipping people to live as overcomers. Through understanding inside out transformation, Mark's message involves getting to the root of issues that contribute to the breakdown of our relationships, our health and our day to day peace. He is passionately reaching his world with a transforming message of love, healing and freedom. Out of their own personal renewal, Mark and Melissa founded Turning Hearts Ministries, a ministry dedicated to inside out transformation. Mark also founded Transformed You, a communication platform for Mark’s teachings, writing and broadcasts that are designed to encourage people in their journey of transformation. Mark and Melissa currently live in Connecticut.

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  • Carol Rodd

    Great show guys! Good catch Melissa, boys from the girls? I love the pàrt about where Melissa asks questions regarding the Bible telling us that God is angry and who it is that’s angry. I never knew that. Also what we need to grow in may be the very thing that bothers us about others. I’ve heard that awhile ago but I need to hear and renew that in my relationships; church, family, and neighbors. Do not stop making these podcasts, valuable information that we have available to us for free. I wish I had millions to give to you.

    • Thanks so much Carol!!!!

    • Melissa DeJesus

      Love your feedback! Thanks Carol

  • Carol Rodd

    You are better than Click and Clack! Funny and informative!

    • 🙂

    • Melissa DeJesus

      Lol… Thanks Carol! We are having so much fun!

  • JL3

    at 29:30 into your podcast, you are talking about this, “if you can love them, you can love anybody”. So true. I have recognized that loving my enemy brings exponential growth into my own life. I have a few people in my life that drive me crazy. They make me want to scratch my head, and go, “Huh?” However, I am determined to love them, so I persist for understanding in how to do that. I find that what is manifesting in their life that drives me crazy, is often a mirror of something that is not quite right in myself, so rather than judging them, I turn it around and judge myself. Now, I don’t mean that I judge myself with condemnation, I mean I get honest and admit that I am seeing something in others that exists in me; I bring it to God; admit it; and ask Him to change me. Simple. If you can accept the fact, with courage, that the craziness you see in others, just might be a mirror of something in yourself, then you are on the fast track to getting that thing uprooted in your life. You CAN’T do this alone! You must love the person, including the person of yourself. You must pray! You must know that God loves you just where you are, hot mess and all. You must have quality resources in your life to overcome. I’ve been making this progress in my life in this area, and I can testify that I am in fact loving my enemies. I know people who dishonor me, disrespect me, talk about me behind my back, and I’m heaping coals of fire on their head by loving them. I love people who have nothing to give back to me. I love people who have abused me and have not even come to their senses that they have hurt me. I don’t love them to get something out of it. I love them because I would want God to love me if I was a hot mess, so I love them in their hot mess. This takes a lot of time in prayer and LISTENING and renewing in truth to learn how to love well. You have to be built up in the strength and love of the Lord to love anyone well. You can’t really “fake it till you make it” in loving others. You will be exposed as a fraud with no fruit if you do. When I don’t love well, I don’t get the benefits of the kind of intensity and intimacy I want with Jesus, so I personally benefit when I love well and that is in loving my enemies. I once heard someone say that the character of love isn’t revealed in how you love those you already love, but in how you love those you don’t really love. It is a constant challenge to love people who drive you crazy, but so worth it. The enemy really loses his grip on you when you work at being unnoffendable. Peace! JL3

  • JL3

    42:12 into Podcast, you are asking what kind of people are in your life. So telling! I have sweet people, searching for the deeper things in life that don’t know the magnitude of God’s love for them. As for me, everytime I think I comprehend God’s love, I hear Him say, “Go bigger”, so I think God is using these people to show me that I need to break off these limitations of God’s love. I didn’t know this, so thank you for talking about it in your podcast. This is a really good podcast. Oh come on, they all are good! Very good!