#029: Lack of Nurture and Why We “Check Out” in Life [Podcast]

In today’s episode, we continue to discuss nurture and the lack thereof, with a focus on why people fall into a habit of checking out in life. What is causing so many people to fall into what we call “checking out.”

Do you check out in life? Is it starting to become a problem? In this episode we address this problem head on and what we can do to be more present and engaged in life.

Jesus said in John 10 that he came to give us life and life more abundantly . . . life to the fullest. Satan comes to steal, kill and destroy. He is a thief of the life of God from flowing inside of you.

The enemy can use negative experiences in our life and train us to fall into a “checking out” pattern, in order to avoid the pain. The problem is that we not only avoid the pain, we also do not get to engage the good in life, because our hearts have become shut down in the process. God wants to walk with you to process through the good and the bad that we face in life. He is our ultimate source for healing and fulfillment in our hearts.

Listen to this episode today and take your freedom back.

Symptoms of “Checking Out”: (with God, your key relationships, life)

  • always have habits to look forward to so you don’t have to think . . .
  • cant pray / cant focus on the Bible
  • isolate a lot from people – especially those who care
  • when problems arise, you tend to look for a way to not deal . . .
  • you are very easily distracted, in relationships, conversations, classes, etc. 
  • you are in fantasy land . . . not dealing with reality
  • you are very forgetful, especially about important things
  • you spend little time thinking about how you can help someone else
  • you are super busy and struggle to stop and engage with the heart
  • you don’t engage anything of value passionately
  • you are very passive

Why We “Check Out”:

  1. The pain is to much. 
  2. We lose the value of staying engaged.
  3. Fear facing the issue, so we become passive and numb.
  4. We have no nurture skills to deal with hard issues.

What We Do To “Check Out” in Life:

  • Entertainment/Amusement
  • Hobby
  • Addictions
  • Work
  • Emotionally disconnect
  • Change relationships.

What To Do: 

  1. Recognize this problem and renounce it.
  2. Get your heart connected.
  3. Become accountable to stay engaged.
  4. Face the pain.
  5. Get an overcomers heart.
  6. Commit to staying engaged.

Send us your questions that arise in listening to this episode. 


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Mark DeJesus has been equipping people in a full time capacity since 1995, serving in various roles, including, teaching people of all ages, communicating through music, authoring books, leading and mentoring. Mark's deepest love is his family; his wife Melissa, son Maximus and daughter Abigail. Mark is a teacher, author and mentor who uses many communication mediums, including the written word, a weekly radio podcast show and videos. His deepest call involves equipping people to live as overcomers. Through understanding inside out transformation, Mark's message involves getting to the root of issues that contribute to the breakdown of our relationships, our health and our day to day peace. He is passionately reaching his world with a transforming message of love, healing and freedom. Out of their own personal renewal, Mark and Melissa founded Turning Hearts Ministries, a ministry dedicated to inside out transformation. Mark also founded Transformed You, a communication platform for Mark’s teachings, writing and broadcasts that are designed to encourage people in their journey of transformation. Mark and Melissa currently live in Connecticut.

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